…Textinfits
What are these you ask? Well, these are when you’ve reached the phone number exchange phase with a man who can’t be bothered to talk. Sadly, this has happened to me on more than one occasion. They all start off super-eager to meet me and then the phone flood of texts start arriving. As the fabulous Erica said in her comment on ADD Not for Me:
“I cant give up my cell number to the strangers I’m meeting anymore. I did it to one and he constantly texted me and it just drove me nuts. I stick to msn prior to the meeting, sure its not the same thing, but it works.”
… Maybe she’s on to something.
Texter #1 – I never actually met this guy. We managed to talk on the phone once and I got a total dork vibe from him. Don’t get me wrong, I like a little bit of nerd in the mix but not a total dweeb package. He would message at all the wrong times – I’d be asleep or at work. He apparently had no concept of time. What finally did him in was his total lack of awareness to anything I said. I told him I was working one weekend and wouldn’t be around. Boy genius sent me a text on a Friday night at midnight and wanted to know if I wanted to go play pool right then and there. Friday night…midnight…”pool”…pretty sure the escort service number was confused for mine.
Texter #2 – I did meet this guy. We met and hit it off okay. Then I didn’t hear from him for a while. No loss, there were no sparks flying. Like Sleepy Urkel, I figured us to be just friends. Then out of the blue he would send a text. I’d respond. He’d respond back. I’d respond back. Then he’d respond again. Like I mentioned before, questions are the breath of a conversation. If they are just statement texts going back and forth, then after two responses I stop. I had a hunch with this guy though, and sure enough within five minutes I received another text, this one containing a question. Good boy, he figured some things out. And to his credit every once in a while after about seven texts he’d just pick up the phone and call. But with his sporadicness, not a New Year’s hopeful. And for those of you asking why I didn’t just pick up the phone and call him, he too would text when I was working. He would plan his call for when he thought I’d be near my phone. Hey, I did say he figured some things out.
And texter #3 – The man who doesn’t get that just because we met online, doesn’t mean I want to keep the relationship in a tech-format. Let’s think of your online profile as your application. If I read it and like what I see, then I’ll call you in for an interview. Now, sometimes there is a phone interview and if that is passed then we go on to the in person interview where I really get to see if you’re right for the job. However, if the interview never takes place, guess what – the job goes to someone with balls enough to call.
So, to recap:
Texter #1 – Pay attention to what the woman says. Thought that rule has already been explained in many many movies, sit-coms, songs…
Texter #2 – Coming and going doesn’t keep you fresh on the girl’s mind.
Texter #3 – What are you waiting for? Grow a pair and go land that job!