Friends with…


          What are these you ask?  Well, these are when you’ve reached the phone number exchange phase with a man who can’t be bothered to talk.  Sadly, this has happened to me on more than one occasion.  They all start off super-eager to meet me and then the phone flood of texts start arriving.  As the fabulous Erica said in her comment on ADD Not for Me:

“I cant give up my cell number to the strangers I’m meeting anymore. I did it to one and he constantly texted me and it just drove me nuts. I stick to msn prior to the meeting, sure its not the same thing, but it works.”

… Maybe she’s on to something.

          Texter #1 – I never actually met this guy.  We managed to talk on the phone once and I got a total dork vibe from him.  Don’t get me wrong, I like a little bit of nerd in the mix but not a total dweeb package.  He would message at all the wrong times – I’d be asleep or at work.  He apparently had no concept of time.  What finally did him in was his total lack of  awareness to anything I said.  I told him I was working one weekend and wouldn’t be around.  Boy genius sent me a text on a Friday night at midnight and wanted to know if I wanted to go play pool right then and there.  Friday night…midnight…”pool”…pretty sure the escort service number was confused for mine.

          Texter #2 – I did meet this guy.  We met and hit it off okay.  Then I didn’t hear from him for a while.  No loss, there were no sparks flying.  Like Sleepy Urkel, I figured us to be just friends.  Then out of the blue he would send a text.  I’d respond.  He’d respond back.  I’d respond back.  Then he’d respond again.  Like I mentioned before, questions are the breath of a conversation.  If they are just statement texts going back and forth, then after two responses I stop.  I had a hunch with this guy though, and sure enough within five minutes I received another text, this one containing a question.  Good boy, he figured some things out.  And to his credit every once in a while after about seven texts he’d just pick up the phone and call.  But with his sporadicness, not a New Year’s hopeful.  And for those of you asking why I didn’t just pick up the phone and call him, he too would text when I was working.  He would plan his call for when he thought I’d be near my phone.  Hey, I did say he figured some things out.

          And texter #3 – The man who doesn’t get that just because we met online, doesn’t mean I want to keep the relationship in a tech-format.  Let’s think of your online profile as your application.  If I read it and like what I see, then I’ll call you in for an interview.  Now, sometimes there is a phone interview and if that is passed then we go on to the in person interview where I really get to see if you’re right for the job.  However, if the interview never takes place, guess what – the job goes to someone with balls enough to call.

          So, to recap:

Texter #1 – Pay attention to what the woman says.  Thought that rule has already been explained in many many movies, sit-coms, songs…

Texter #2 – Coming and going doesn’t keep you fresh on the girl’s mind.

Texter #3 – What are you waiting for?  Grow a pair and go land that job!


1 Comment »

  1. Jimmy Said:

    Very good advice. Like this blog a lot – the fact you go into detail without banging on for ages. It’s snappy but full of observation.

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